Archive for June, 2011

Goals – do you have to have one?

June 29, 2011

I am often asked ‘Do you have to have a goal?’ My answer is always ‘YES!’ Without a goal all you are doing is watching the passage of time. Without a goal you have nothing to propel you forward, it is as if you are treading water. Treading water is not only exhausting but also boring. Your goal does not have to be super-charged and hard to achieve. In fact, I recommend having goals that are achievable. Start small. Have a goal that only takes a few days or even a few hours to achieve. There is nothing like the feeling of success to motivate you to do more.

Do you agree? Do you set daily goals for yourself? Maybe you prefer to set long term goals – goals that have mulitple steps with mini benchmarks along the way. Maybe you have both; daily and long term goals. Write back and tell me how you keep from treading water. What motivates you? Is it a goal?

Feeling Disorganized?

June 22, 2011

Have you ever felt disorganized? Sometimes things happen, things that are beyond our control, that create the disorganization. Think about it. If you are planning an event (like a wedding) you might just focus on that and remove focus from maintaining the day to day order. If you inherit things, like furniture, that can contribute to the disorganization – until you merge the inherited things with the things you aleady possess. Recently, due to several events in my life, I have been feeling a little disorganized. This is a very uncomfortable feeling for me. I am almost always ultra-organized. All the ‘things’ in my house have homes. Papers are not left to linger, Nick’s calendar and mine are shared and all is well with the world. Generally, I can handle most all unforseen little glitches. Nothing in my world ever runs completely smoothly, so I am usually O.K. with surprises. BUT this past month furniture and other small table top items arrived from Nick’s mother’s house and my mother’s house. Our garage was full of boxes and furniture while we decided what to donate out to make room for what had arrived. Add into this our son’s wedding.  Maybe you can understand why I am feeling this way. The Institute for Challenging Disorganization (ICD) calls this ‘Situational Disorganization’. 

This ‘Situational Disorganization’ is resolving itself because Nick and I are conscientously working on it. Everyday we schedule a little time to work together on this project.  We have emptied all of the boxes in the garage. Homes have been found for the table top items we want to keep. Other items have been taken to either the consignment store or Goodwill. Some of the furniture has been merged into our living spaces, other furniture is going into a storage unit for our son. I can hear some of my colleagues saying ‘Don’t put anything in storage!’ I promise my son has a plan for the furniture and as soon as he is able the items in storage will be moved to his home. A situation such as this has the potential to be really debilitating. If we had put on blinders and decided to ignore the mountain of boxes in the garage along with the furniture these things could have stayed there indefinately. It was important to us so get back to our normal organized home so we made a plan.

Has a situation in your life left you feeling disorganized?

To read more about situational disorganization go to: www.challengingdisorganization.com Look for fact sheets!

Destination Weddings

June 16, 2011

Last weekend my son was married at The Sullivan House on Block Island. Nick, my husband, and I had never been to Block Island. It was everything we had been told and more. The views were stunning, flowers lush, and the town quaint. Friends and family came from near and far. This couple was surrounded by love. The weekend was nothing short of magical. Nick and I arrived on Wednesday by ferry from Point Judith. As the ferry approached Block Island we saw a huge tent on a bluff and wondered if this was where our son would be married. It was! Imagine that, a tent on a bluff with views of sailboats and the ocean. We rented a house on The Sullivan House property for the 5 days we were there and were very happy to be close at hand to help oversee details. You might be thinking because this is a ‘Destination Wedding’ all anyone has to do is get there and everything magically happens. I had that very same thought until I became involved in planning and organizing what was to be our part (as the grrom’s parents) in this wonderful event. My skills as a Professional Organizer were put to good use. I used backwards planning, made lists, and entered all data into spread sheets. Consequently, the items I needed to decorate the tables were waiting for me. Also, Nick and I enjoyed every minute of the weekend. Yes, there was work to be done but there were also friends and family members helping. Everyone was there to celebrate and celebrate we did!