Archive for August, 2013

Wins!

August 20, 2013

Once a month I attend a meeting with several other women. Some of the women have known each other for years and years. They started out decades ago as colleagues and have maintained their friendships. They have a beautiful history together. I joined this group about a year ago. I’m just getting to know most of these women. However, two of the women in the group are colleagues of mine, fellow professional organizers. We three have known each other for about seven years. So, as you might imagine, it’s a very friendly group. This is my goals group. I am so thankful to be a part of this group!

As I said, we meet once a month. The meetings are generally in one of the member’s home and always are timed around a meal. Everyone brings something to contribute to the meal. It’s interesting that no one organizes the meal and it just works out. For instance for this month’s meeting 1 person brought a quiche, 1 brought veggies and dip, 1 brought fruit, and 1 brought chips. There was plenty for everyone and no duplications!

The meeting starts with a thought provoking inspirational quote. The member hosting the meeting finds and reads this to us. Then we start by going around the group and each person states what her ‘wins’ are for that month. Then we go around again and each person talks about what her goals are for the coming month.

I’m talking about this because this month was particularly meaningful to me and I wanted to share my thoughts about it with you. One of the members of our group said ‘I don’t have any wins this month’. The woman sitting next to her said ‘yes, you do!’ and she went on to elicit the wins from her friend.

We all do things that we must celebrate as wins. They may not appear on the surface to be things we feel we have accomplished but think about them again and we might say something like ‘I’m happy I did that’ or ‘ wow! that worked out well!’

Do you make a daily ‘to-do’ list? If you do, then you know the things you have done. Maybe some are routine tasks. Maybe you are working on a project and have broken that project down into smaller portions (measurable, achievable goals) and have completed a portion. Perhaps just getting through the day is an accomplishment.

Celebrate your wins. Remember them. Write them down and tell your friends. So often we talk about the things we haven’t done, want to do, or didn’t do well. I love being a part of a support group, my goals group. We celebrate each others wins and encourage each other.

Are you a member of a group such as the one I belong to?

If you aren’t, maybe you’d like to start one?

Appropriate Cell Phone Use

August 6, 2013

Is your cell phone always at hand and ready for you to use? Mine is almost always nearby but quite often I have my phone on silent. I figure whoever is looking for me will either leave a voice mail or send a text.

Do you think there are times and places where you should purposely not use your phone? I do. I can think of many situations where it is not appropriate to use your phone. The movie theatre or actually any show is one. Cell phone use in that situation disturbs the people sitting around you. At dinner, whether it is at home or in a restaurant is another place. It’s hard to have a good conversation if everyone is staring at their phone! I’m sure you can think of other situations.

Another particular situation is on my mind because of a TV ad I saw recently. Perhaps you’ve seen the same ad? The ad takes place in a bathroom. Why would you ever feel the need to call someone at the same time as you are using a toilet?  I bet the person on the other end of the phone doesn’t want to know that you’re in the bathroom. I bring this up because there is an ad on TV that highlights this very situation. The ad is actually promoting the fact that T-Mobile no longer has cell phone contracts. With T-Mobile you can replace your phone whenever you need to – regardless the length of time you’ve owned the phone. The ad I’m thinking of shows a man standing in front of a urinal  with his cell phone braced between his shoulder and ear. He is talking on the phone. It is a public bathroom with several vacant urinals in view. Another man walks into view just as the phone slips and falls into the urinal. The first man hesitates, the viewer is lead to believe he is thinking about reaching into the urinal to rescue his phone and then there is the promotion for the T-Mobile service. T-Mobile makes their point but I think the point could also be made by showing someone jumping into a pool and then realizing their phone was in their pocket.

What do you think? Do you think it’s appropriate to use your phone whenever and where ever you feel like it? I’m interested to know!