Hallmarks of an Adult?

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The other morning I was listening to my local news station as I was catching up on my ‘words with friends’ and I was really surprised. I had only been listening half way, concentrating mostly on my strategy in the game I was playing on my phone, when something caught my attention. It was something about millennials taking classes in what the reporter called ‘adulting’. I didn’t know what that meant and still don’t really. The report went on talking about things adults do, for instance; chores around the house, budget their money, pay bills, file papers, and manage their time (although that’s a subject for another day).

The point of the report was that some millennials seem to be so lacking in knowledge in these areas that they feel a need to take classes.

Actually, I do get that because some of my clients are millennials and they haven’t the slightest idea how to go about cleaning their house, organizing their kitchen, putting away their clothes – I could go on but I think you get the idea. These millennials, the ones I work with (and possibly the ones in the news report), have grown up without any sense of what it takes to lead an organized life.

They have successfully completed school and, for the most part, have jobs. They want to live independently – to be adults.

Unfortunately, schools do not teach home/life skills otherwise known as home economics. I never took home economics in school – I think that was phased out even before my generation. So, what happened? Why is it that some of these young adults are not equipped with the basic skills and information that are the hallmarks of being an adult?

I think it’s a combination of things.

Some of these young people did not have the skills modeled for them. Maybe their parents weren’t great at organizing themselves, maybe they outsourced things like bill paying, maybe they didn’t ask the children to help with routine household chores.

Whatever the reason, I’m happy to know they are taking classes to fill in the blanks.

What are the hallmarks of becoming an adult?

For me, it’s taking care of myself and those in my family, taking care of my home (meaning keeping it clean and tidy), being a good friend, doing my job to the best of my ability, paying my bills, and having fun working on my hobbies which are gardening, needlepoint, and dancing.

What does being an adult mean to you?

PS I have written a book which covers all of these subject areas and more. You can learn more about my book on my website: www.dnqsolutions.com





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4 Responses to “Hallmarks of an Adult?”

  1. TheSeanaMethod Says:

    I was just talking about this with a friend the other day. Our children are now “adulting,” and one of the issues they are learning to manage is navigating red tape. For many, parents handled this growing up, but now they have to track down needed information and slog through the bureaucracy. It is time consuming and frustrating… and it is part of life.

  2. Hazel Thornton Says:

    Sometimes the phrase is used in semi-jest by full-fledged competent adults. Most of us know perfectly well how to do our dishes and make our own medical appointments, but it can take a lot of energy and isn’t the funnest part of our day. And then there are insurance issues to resolve, taxes to file, home repairs to orchestrate, etc. Adulting can be hard! I am often pleased with myself for doing a little adulting along with more creative and pleasurable activities.

  3. Linda Samuels Says:

    That’s a new term to me…”adulting.” How interesting! I remember asking both of our daughters before they left for college if there was anything we hadn’t taught them that they wanted to learn before they left home. It turns out they had many of the skills they needed, but wanted to learn about how to do laundry. And now they know…and each day add more to their “adult” skills. It’s pretty amazing to watch.

  4. Sarah Soboleski Says:

    I just met a potential client yesterday who talked about never having been taught to clean and organize. She said her mother would make her stay in her room on Saturday afternoons until her room was cleaned and that she would just stuff everything in drawers and under the bed so she could get outside to play. After years of doing this you can see the poor habits she developed and how there’s a real gap in her home keeping skills now.

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