Posts Tagged ‘celebrate’

Happiness is…?

October 19, 2016

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At the end of September I had the privilege of attending a conference run by a group to which I belong: The Institute for Challenging Disorganization. I love this conference. In fact I love it so much that I decided to demonstrate that by chairing the conference in 2017! But I digress.

One of our speakers was a young woman, Ayla Lewis, who spoke to us about the power of positive thinking and happiness. Her presentation was well thought out, fun, and interactive. Ayla had a marvelous way of engaging the audience to teach the concepts she was presenting.

Many of the concepts presented were not new to me and I’m sure not new to many of us there. However; Ayla included scientific information to substantiate these concepts. It was fascinating.  

So, what is happiness? Ayla told us that happiness is a choice. I believe this to be true. I’m one who likes to look at a glass and say that it is half full rather than half empty. I’m always looking for the positive spin and am generally happy. Or should I say content.

We were told that no one is always happy. We have moments of happiness. It’s more important and better for us if we often experience small moments of happiness rather than striving for that one big fleeting moment to be happy. Have you ever heard someone say ‘I’ll be happy after I …’ or perhaps ‘I’ll be truly happy when I’ve …’ I have heard people say things like that and wondered if they ever had those moments of happiness. And how long the happiness lasted.

Ayla advised us to use journaling to record the brief happy moments that occur during the day. She asked us to write down three things daily. If you’re looking for the small things I’m sure any one of us could find way more than three things to write down.

Let me tell you a little story. I attended a wedding last weekend in Connecticut. An adorable three year old little girl was the flower girl.  She made many of us smile as she ran down the aisle in church during the rehearsal. When she got up to the altar she turned around and faced those of us sitting in the pews, sat down, and just started swinging her legs. She looked like she was waiting there to watch the show begin. She was happy in that moment. And those of us watching her chuckled and were happy too!

Ayla encouraged us to take those moments and savor them. This is happiness. It is something that comes and goes. Celebrate – really be happy – live in those moments when they arrive. It’s ok, in fact, natural, not to be happy 24/7. Acknowledge and experience  other emotions. Then welcome the happy moments as they occur.     

I’ll tell you what makes me happy. Working in my garden, successfully completing a series of dance steps with my partner, getting a phone call from one of my children, getting together with a friend, seeing that a client has maintained the organization, making progress on my needlepoint canvas – all these things create moments of happiness for me.

What makes you happy? Write me back and let me know. 

 

 

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Free To Be …

July 6, 2016

In light of recent Independence Day celebrations I just wanted to take this opportunity to let you know how thankful I am to be a citizen of the United States of America.

Yes, I was born here. However; I am very aware of the freedoms that we have as I spent a number of years living overseas in Asia. We are able to travel freely across the continental United States and to Alaska and Hawaii. We can speak our minds and not be worried we might be overheard, misunderstood, and taken off to jail or worse. We can practice our own religions or not – it’s our choice. We can change religions or not. We are free to do as we choose – as long as we are not disrupting the peace or breaking any stated law. We are very lucky.

I do not take these freedoms for granted and am very thankful and appreciative of all those men and women who choose to serve in our armed forces to insure that we in the United States continue to enjoy these freedoms.

I choose to celebrate these freedoms by mindfully acknowledging that if I am awarded these freedoms by living here in the United States of America then all those living here with me are also awarded the same freedoms.

I believe that by acknowledging and celebrating the differences between us, learning about the ways in which we are the same and the ways in which we differ, brings a wealth to each one of us. We can learn about other customs, other ways of dress, different religions, other foods and let our lives be enriched through these discoveries.

These are the things that make our country great. Letting each of us be free to be who we are not forcing anyone of us to follow a certain path just because that’s the way it is – without the freedom to choose.

I am a Christian, a mother to two children, a certified professional organizer, a certified professional organizer in chronic disorganization, an author, a speaker, a gardener, a ballroom dancer, an animal lover, a nature lover, a baker and more. These are some of the things that define me. Things I love about me.

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Mom

May 4, 2016

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In honor of mother’s day I wanted to share some thoughts with you about my mother; my mom.

This is what I called my mother. She was always simply Mom. She was the best. Sadly, she left this life way too early at the young age of 73. She had Leukemia. She fought a valiant battle for about 14 months and never once complained.

This post is not about her passing but about her living. I am who I am in part because of some of the wonderful lessons my mom taught me. I want to tell you about her and about what I learned from my mom.

Mom loved her family wholeheartedly. I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters making us a large family. Mom loved us all unreservedly. We have our faults which she acknowledged and loved us anyway. She guided us when she thought we had lost our way, boosted us up when we were down in the dumps, and celebrated our accomplishments.

Mom loved to play tennis and croquet. She was a master gardener and flower arranger. I think some of that rubbed off on me. I love my garden and tend it faithfully. She and I used to go on garden tours whenever it was convenient. In fact, my mother’s day present to her was usually tickets to the local garden tour and a lovely lunch along the way! I loved the way she could identify and tell me about most of the plants we saw. She also loved to play poker! Mom had poker parties with two other couples. They had dinner and played poker long into the night – lots of fun!

Mom had great style. She was not particularly fashionable in what she wore. Rather she wore classic clothes and created her own style which suited her to perfection.

Mom was very opinionated. You never had to wonder what she was thinking. She would tell you if she liked or didn’t like something or what you were doing. She was very polite about it and had a way of letting you know where she stood about something without directly insulting you.

Mom loved to travel and experience new things. She was always up for an adventure. She came and visited me in Bangkok, Hong Kong, and Singapore when I lived in those cities. She was amazing.

I learned so much from my mom. She was a great role model. I learned to love adventures and to keep my mind open to different ways of thinking from my mom. Most of all I learned to celebrate all that this life has to offer, to see the good in situations, to look beyond the obvious and to be true to myself.

I miss mom more than words can say but I believe that she lives in my heart.

This mother’s day I will celebrate the memory of my mom and the wonderful times we had together with my brothers and sisters!

Tell me about your mother and your plans for Mother’s Day.